MONDAY MOTIVATION: Why Oprah Saying Beyonce Makes Her 'Proud to Spell My Name WOMYN' is a Head Nod To All of Us

I watched the Beyonce Life is But a Dream documentary over the weekend as well as her interview with Oprah, and while I had not learnt anything new about Beyonce there were a few take aways for me as a womyn and as an artist. What stood out to me the most was during the interview at the end when Ms. O said to Beyonce, "After watching Life is But a Dream, I have to tell you that I come away reminded of that line in a Maya Angelou poem that says, 'You make me proud to spell my name W-O-M-A-N." Such a big compliment to pay a womyn! And, one that we all need to look ourselves in the mirror and say on repeat.

As I turn 40 today, I realize that with age I've fallen into being exactly the womyn that I've always wanted to be. My life is not perfect, but I can say it's pretty damn good! And, it's good because I've finally learned to let go of the inner struggles, things I don't accept about myself and to be really specific about the people I have around me. Instead of playing tug-of-war with these things I've given up the battle and chose acceptance of where I am exactly today.

I wrote a quick note on my Facebook page the other day outlining the '40 things I know about myself as I turn 40'. A few of them are:

1.  I will never have a flat stomach or a six pack and I'm going to try my best to let go of that dream....
2.  I love vanilla cupcakes and I can eat them all day and this maybe the reason why i don't have a flat     stomach!
3.  Friends and family will often disappoint you, but I need to stop taking their lack of action or actions   personally it's not about me.
4.  I will continue to disappoint friends and family, and they need to stop taking it personally.
5. I want to have friends who listen more to me, who call me often and ask me how I'm doing? I want friends who share with me their lives, people who openly share their life lessons and encourage me to be a better person.
6. I want to actively work on my dreams every day. I want my play to go to Broadway. I want my own theatre, talk show, radio show! I want  full creative ownership to do work that I love the way I want too!
7. I need to accept that my to do list will never end. I create a new one every day!
8. I want to love who i love, with no explanations to anyone. Without thought to anyone but myself. I want to love how I want to be loved, with gentleness, consideration, soft kisses, deep conversations, and an ability to be challenged and to be challenged to be better. I want to care less about what people think about me, and care more about what I think of the people in my life!

But the main thing that I want as I move into this new chapter of my life is, I want to not only stand in and own the womyn that I am but inspire other womyn to do so themselves. I've realized that all of my work as an artist has been working towards and leading up to that. I want to inspire other womyn to love themselves period. To love their hair, to love what they do, love the way they look, love who they've chosen to be around them, etc.

I think this is what Lady O meant when she spoke about Beyonce and I believe that one day I will be sitting on her couch when she will share that sentiment with me as well.

But for now, I'm 40 and happy to stand with pride to spell my name w-o-m-y-n.

Happy Monday!

Happy Birthday Mr. Cosby

Bill Cosby turned 75 years old yesterday!  HAPPY BIRTHDAY COS!

His birthday got me thinking about his life and career.  What an amazing run he's had. Starting with Fat Albert and the Cosby kids..."Hey Hey Hey!"  

Fat Albert started as a comedy sketch that turned into a show that ran for 12 years.  Then he had The Cosby Show, A Different World and The Cosby Mysteries just to name a few. 

Bill Cosby has inspired us in so many ways over the years through his stand up comedy and his various TV shows.  How many of you remember how amazing Thursday nights used to be?  The Cosby Show A Different World back to back. 

They were the shows that shaped us; they gave us a positive reflection of ourselves on the TV screen.

And in a way I have to say thank you to him.  Because without him pioneering through the industry and opening the doors that he did, I may not have had the opportunities that I have had to open the doors that I've opened.

Take a moment today to Youtube some of his stand up or old TV shows.  A great laugh to start the weekend!

Dad is so great!  He brings me chocolate cake! (classic!)

Happy Birthday Mr Marley

I had to take the time out to celebrate one of the greatest reggae artists to have graced the earth with his presence.  The legacy Bob Marley created in a short 36 years on earth is quite incredible.  And even though he`s been gone for over 30 years, he continues to inspire the world with his wisdom and his music.

His music and life have inspired me over the years and I always wonder what the world would have been like had he celebrated his 67th birthday today.

Let's celebrate him with some of your favorite songs...post them in the comments.

Happy Birthday Bob Marley!