For the Dreamers...

I saw this on Tyler Perry's page and wanted to share it with you all for some mid-week motivation. This is for all of you who are feeling that frustration with where you are at in life and are at the point of giving up to accept mediocrity because you don't see how you can make the dream placed in your heart possible. I've been there before. I think that anyone who has been successful has wanted to give up at least once but more realistically many many times. Don't give up. This is your time to strengthen your faith in yourself and in the plan for your life.

Check out what Tyler had to say about this here: 

THIS IS FOR FRUSTRATED DREAMERS

I was driving in to work this morning and I started thinking about all the days I dreaded going to work. I was so sick of it… the job, my boss, the people I worked with, the traffic… I would wake up angry every morning. I didn’t want to deal with the crap of the job, but I was forced to go. I had been homeless, I was broke, living paycheck to hopefully the next paycheck. I couldn’t take a day off for fear I would get fired. I was just frustrated. I thought I hated my life and the job.

It was so aggravating because God had placed all these dreams and hopes in my soul and mind and I had no idea how they were going to come to pass. To have a dream of being something better and living better than the way I was at that moment and to not see a way of getting there felt like death to me. I thought, “Dear God, why would you give me so much hope and not make a way?” But what I learned through prayer was, with no path in front of you and no road map… this is where true faith begins. With faith I realized that I wasn’t frustrated with my life or the job, I was frustrated because I was a person who had dreams for myself, a person who had visions for my life and I wasn’t living it. Have you ever been there, where you felt so strongly that there was more to this life than what you see in front of you?

One of the most difficult things about being a dreamer is the fear that the dream will never happen. I’m here as a living witness to tell you your dreams can come true. You can’t give up. And I am here to let you know that everything can work together for your good. The time that you are spending on that job that you think is a dead end is not. You’re being prepared just like I was. I was a shoeshine boy, I worked as a bill collector, a used car salesman, in housekeeping in a hotel, and they all were preparation for where I am now.

What do these things have to do with where I am now? I’m glad you asked. I am able to use skills that I learned. I shined shoes, so I know how to shine my shoes if I need them to look nice. Selling used cars was a great way to learn how to close a deal. Bill collecting taught me great negotiation skills. Working at that 5-star hotel taught me a lot about travel. Every experience in your life is here to teach you something.

Today, while you’re at work, don’t be frustrated. Look around you and ask God what are you there to learn and how will it be a part of your future dream. Honor that job, do the best you can at it, because God will bless you for honoring something that belongs to another.

I hope this inspires you today. If you need a little more inspiration then watch my first sit-down interview in years with Oprah on Oprah's Next Chapter. It airs this Sunday on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network at 9/8c. I talk a little about not giving up. I know it will move you.

Here’s a prayer for today: “God help me hold on, help me to get to what I dream of, help me to honor where I am today so that I can appreciate where I will be tomorrow. In Jesus' name.”

MONDAY MOTIVATION: 4 tips to help you set and reach your goals

With November almost over, it’s getting to that time of year where people often find themselves wondering where the year went. Before we know it Christmas will be here and then we’ll be ringing in 2013! It might seem far away, but just remember how quickly the past 9 months have flown by and you’ll realize the same thing that I did. It’s time to start thinking about your 2013 resolutions.

I know, I know…some of you will tell me that you don’t believe in New Year’s resolutions. There are usually 2 reasons that people give for not making NY resolutions. Either you don’t see the point of waiting until the new year to start on good habits OR because you never manage to keep them.

If you’re in the first group, kudos to you for being able to work on yourself throughout the year; that’s what we all should aspire to. This is exactly why I suggest everyone start thinking about your goals now.

Here are 4 tips that I find extremely helpful when setting and working towards my goals:

1.       Be specific. Don’t just say that you want to learn a new language. Your goal should include as many specifics as possible. What language do you want to learn? Is the goal to learn to speak, to read, to write or all of the above? And how long do you have to complete your goal. By setting a specific goal that is tied to a particular time, you make it easier to hold yourself accountable and to know when you’re veering off track.

2.       Set small steps to help you achieve a larger goal. Any large goal can be broken down into easier to handle parts that will increase your chances of following through. Many of us set goals to lose weight. But you need to go even further and decide how you are going to do that. You might choose to change your eating habits, to exercise more or to do both. Not only should you know how much weight you want to lose, and by when, but you should have daily goals for your nutrition and your exercise, and weekly or monthly weight loss goals. By breaking a big goal into small pieces it makes it less scary and also allows you to celebrate the smaller accomplishments as you work towards the final goal.

3.       Prioritize. Pick two or three important things to work on. You don’t have to (and probably can’t) change everything in your life all at once. If you set a long list of goals you risk becoming too overwhelmed to follow through on any of them. Instead, make a list of all of the things that you would like to work on and then rank them in the order of importance. Pick the most important ones to take on this year, and put the list somewhere safe. Once you've accomplished the first few goals, you can always go back to your list!

4.       Keep going. Just because the year is over doesn't mean you have to give up on the 2012 goals that you haven’t quite completed. Even if you didn't actually start on one, if it’s important to you and you've been wanting it for (at least) one year, it’s worth trying again.  Use the other 3 tips and you can be sure to accomplish it, along with any other goals that you make for 2013.

Have you accomplished your 2012 goals yet? Will you set any for next year? If so, please share them in the comments. I’d love to see what your goals are as I work on my own!

5 Things You Need To Cleanse

I shared with my Facebook friends that I am preparing to do a cleanse. Lately I feel like my brain has been foggy, I have not been sleeping properly, I've had crazy sugar cravings, I'm constantly feeling tired, and I'm tired of the eczema.  I decided to follow the 14 day cleanse called the Candida Diet Cleanse. (I'll post a link at the end of the blog.)

I think doing a cleanse is almost hitting the reset button and giving yourself the chance to start over with a clean slate.  Not only is it important to cleanse your body, but other areas that can benefit from a cleanse are:

1. Relationships/friends - online or offline - It's important to reevaluate the people you have around you.  Are there people who have been draining your energy or bringing you negative energy? Have you been feeling guilty about not spending enough time with certain people?  Maybe it's time for you to connect with those who have been on your mind.  and disconnect with those who just don't fit in your life anymore (for whatever reason).  Remember that people are in your life for a reason, season or a lifetime....so if their reason or season is over they have to go.

2. Goals - Yes! Cleanse your goals.  Maybe not your long term goals, but take a moment to reevaluate your goals and make sure you are either a) on the right track or b) need to make a few adjustments to see your goals through to fruition.  Make or update your vision board.  Write down  your 3 month, 6 month, 1 year, 3 year and 5 year goals.  Make sure you aren't working in vain. 

3. Home - I`m sure most of us can benefit from a little de-cluttering every now and again.  Take a moment and go through those drawers - do you have clothes you haven`t worn in 6 -12 months? Donate them!  Old makeup?  Toss it! That gift that you got from someone and you're only keeping it because you feel obligated or guilty? Give it away!  You're home needs to be a space of comfort and relaxation...fill it with positive energy!


4. Mind - I know we live in a technological society and that we are constantly bombarded with...well...stuff! But it's important to remember to take a few moments out of your busy day to renew your mind.  For some it's mediation.  For others it's writing in a journal or taking a walk.  Do whatever works for you! 


5. Body - Like I mentioned above I was tired of feeling sluggish. I was putting too many toxins in my body and it's just time to get back to basics.  The link for the cleanse I'm following is http://www.thecandidadiet.com/candida-diet-stage-one.htm.  But if that won't work for you, ask Google to help you out! Do a little research, find one that works for you, and stick with it!  Doing a cleanse is not easy, but the benefits are incredible.

I will also keep you posted on progress of the cleanse along the way...GOOD LUCK with yours.  And be sure to share your results with me!

blessings

Getting Ready for the New Year

2012 is quickly approaching and it's time that we start creating new goals and desires for the new year. Every year we resolve to hit the gym, or to give up (insert item here), do better and be better. But somewhere around mid January the hype wears off and we're left with a laundry list of seemingly unattainable goals that we set with high hopes. How do you ensure success?

Have you ever thought about having a life coach help you?

A life coach isn't someone the stars use to help them 'keep it real.'

Really what I'm here to do is to help you put your life into perspective! That's all. I'm that voice of reason, that friend that will tell you the truth and inspiration and motivation we all need to push our goals to the next level. Sometimes we all need that outside voice to help us see the light and help propel us to the next level.

So what are you waiting for? the stroke of midnight? Your dreams to start to fade?

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