Rapper, Rick Ross’ recent controversy with his lyrics
that many felt promoted date rape and resulted in him being dropped from major
endorsements such as Reebok was a definite indication that learning the art of
an apology is a required skill that we must learn as we mature. While in many
cases the hurt and damaged caused is far past a small apology, it is important
none the less to show regret. Some people feel that apologizing makes them weak
or that there is no point in saying it because the damage is already done. But,
I think there is nothing wrong with being humble sometimes and expressing your
regret for hurting someone else’s feelings.
There are a few steps that are important to follow
in giving an apology:
Own
up to your wrongs
Fess up and take responsibility for what you have
done. In the rapper’s case, he first denied that his lyrics were hurtful or
controversial. He placed blame on the media for creating a bigger hype around a
situation that was small. His denial led to people feeling even more upset with
him and disrespected by him.
Say
I’m sorry urgently
Don’t wait, don’t hesitate. Just simply say, “I’m
sorry”. Your urgency will show others that you are serious and are considerate
of our feelings
Take
Action
Sometimes sorry isn’t enough and action needs to
follow. In Ross’ case an apology was not enough, so now it is important for him
to genuinely right his wrongs. Perhaps he can volunteer with organizations or
take part in a cause dealing with womyn so that he can learn more about it and
learn some sensitivity with the issue.
These are the first few steps but the major key in
apologizing is to truly mean it.
What’s your apology style?
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